larlet-fr-david/david/2020/fragments/Good intent.md

## Good intent

> [en] In that context, people telling you to ‘assume good intent’ sounds like ==they’re really telling you to shut up==. That your feelings about getting stomped on all the time don’t matter. That no matter how sore your foot is, how much money you’ve spent replacing ruined shoes, how many times you’ve limped on broken toes, you still have a responsibility to worry about the feelings of the people who are hurting you. Because they don’t *mean* it. As if that makes a difference.
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> <cite>*[How “Good Intent” Undermines Diversity and Inclusion](https://thebias.com/2017/09/26/how-good-intent-undermines-diversity-and-inclusion/)* ([cache](/david/cache/2020/618f913d970fee8feadadd15cf282e5a/))</cite>

Même avec la meilleure intention du monde, on passe parfois complètement à côté de la souffrance. J’ai toujours ce tiraillement entre l’écoute (plus ou mois active) et l’action (plus ou moins délétère). La solution facile serait d’aller s’isoler mais je ne me sens pas encore assez fatigué de jongler avec des émotions pour cela.