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title: I want to lose every debate.
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	My favorite moments in life are when someone shows me a new perspective — a way of thinking I had never considered.
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	Ideally it’s something I opposed, but they help me understand why it works for them.
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	The sex worker explains why she loves her job.
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	The Singaporean in the three-piece-suit explains why clothing is like the SMTP protocol.
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	The Hindu explains why poverty doesn’t upset her.
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	The Muslim explains why Islamic law is a perfect recipe for peace.
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	The hedonist justifies her partying, and tells me the most heart-warming explanation for her ugly tattoo.
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	These conversations are the most memorable — the most life-changing — because I get a personal introduction to <strong>a mindset — a walk-through of a thought process</strong>.
	I get to understand their reasoning.
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	Then those people I thought were wrong, stupid, or crazy suddenly make sense.
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	Thinking that people are <a href="https://sive.rs/ss">stupid</a> is not thinking.
	Understanding them is.
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	I never want to debate, but if I had to, I would hope to lose.
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	I don’t want to convince anyone of my existing perspective.
	I would rather be convinced of theirs.
	It’s more interesting to assume that they are right.
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